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恩恩,就是這個意思
其實這意思就是,你要能成為一個能給予建議的聆聽者
讓對方覺得你很可靠,可以依附你.

用第三人的立場,不要把自己也攪進去,盡量避免情緒性字眼
用很客觀的態度去分析,建議,相信在女孩子心目中是會加分的.
如果常常使用情緒性的字眼去附和對方,對方容易把你當成好朋友,一鼻孔出氣.
有點類似...麻吉,我挺你!!那種感覺

我很會聆聽,但卻拙於言辭。除了一鼻子出氣,也沒什麼好建議給人,原來我失敗不是沒有原因的
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